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capri0mniThe other day, I wrote something along the lines of: My favorite thing about Valentine's Day is the graphic design of the "valentines heart."
So today, I decided to act on that conviction, and made this:
Description: A primarily magenta "valentine heart" with highlights in yellow and green, featuring a stylized design of flowers and spirals that is symmetrical along the vertical axis.
So today, I decided to act on that conviction, and made this:
Description: A primarily magenta "valentine heart" with highlights in yellow and green, featuring a stylized design of flowers and spirals that is symmetrical along the vertical axis.
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Date: 2016-02-14 12:40 pm (UTC)*(S.A.D? Really, Unknown Acronym-Composer? You sure you want to go with that?)
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Date: 2016-02-14 12:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-02-14 01:13 pm (UTC)As William Shakespeare put it (By way of his character Beatrice):
"...and away to Saint Peter for the heavens; he shows me where the bachelors sit, and there live we as merry as the day is long."
A name for an awareness day based on M.E.R.R.Y. would be way too long, though. I'll give U.A.C. that much.
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Date: 2016-02-14 01:45 pm (UTC)But that's the default view in our societies, hence Singles Awareness Day. If Valentine's Day doesn't bother you then you're not likely to experience it as Singles Awareness Day, hence "SAD" for people who are bothered. People who're happy being single can celebrate every day, with Valentine's being no different to any other.
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Date: 2016-02-14 02:48 pm (UTC)That's the problem.
*Deletes > 100 word rant for something simpler*
Ignoring today's celebrations (rather than creating a "none of the above" option) reinforces the idea that the default view is both morally right and factually correct when it is neither.
How about S.A.a.D? (Stupid-Amatonormativity-awareness-Day?
(ETA) Had a better idea in the shower (As one does):
I'd initially thought that the extra "a" would be sufficient to convey the sense of eye-rolling that merry bachelors engage in, on this day. But it really is too close to be clear. B.A.N.D. (Busting Amato-Normativity Day) is better. Then, you could send out invitations to your Ace and Aro friends, inviting them to join the B.A.N.D.
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Date: 2016-02-15 04:44 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-02-15 04:56 pm (UTC)But this gave me an opportunity to talk about this philosophical debate. <3
(The other paper from this conference that I want to find is titled: "Platonic Ideals and Two-Headed Calves: Intersex and Human Sexual Dimorphism", naturally).
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Date: 2016-02-15 05:03 pm (UTC)"Happy SAD!"
Good luck with your new acronym overtaking the one that's been in common use for at least a decade though.
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Date: 2016-02-15 05:11 pm (UTC)I changed "debate" to "discussion" because I realized debate was the wrong word, and I clarified my misconception that I thought you were replying to my most recent entry, which discussed a philosophical paper presented at a 2009 conference on ethics and government.
(or I tried to... you are too pithy and fast typing, bb)
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Date: 2016-02-15 05:40 pm (UTC)Poetry: Sadness is not a monster, and doesn't need to be hidden away. Sadness can be an inner demon for some people but for other people sadness can be a teacher or an inspiration (imagine no melancholy poetry!) or a world of other characters.
Philosophy: If your grief is important enough to need sharing in public then why is other people's grief invalid and to be suppressed instead of expressed? /rhetorical question
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Date: 2016-02-15 07:04 pm (UTC)It's not. I said nothing at all about suppressing anything. Of course widows and widowers deserve and need their own grief support groups -- monogamous marriage is a unique and complex relationship, and rebuilding your sense of self and community can only benefit from sharing your feelings with others who've shared an experience of that complexity.
It's just frustrating when that's the only kind of deep, complex relationship to receive social sanction or support.
Sadness is not a monster, and doesn't need to be hidden away.
Of course not. But --
Another thing I said, in my too-slow edit, was that this may be an example of the difference between British and American sardonic humor.
-- S.A.D. may obviously be protest and resistance to you, while to me, it comes across as surrender to a finger-wagging authority.